How To Heal After Witnessing Tragedy

how-to-heal-after-witnessing-tragedy Kerry-Ann Ingram



I’m still in a state of shock over all the sadness coming out of the United States of America. Like most of you, I’ve been glued to my computer screen – checking all the updates surrounding all the recent tragic events.

Needless the say, we all need to know how to heal after witnessing tragedy.


I just arrived back home from a beautiful trip visiting London, Leeds and Paris. I was all prepared to talk to you about how wonderful and soul fulfilling travelling can be and why you should do it too. Then, I jumped on the internet and turned on the television and had to change my plans.


A day after I returned, I witnessed the senseless killing of Philando Castile. Like many, I watch as he lost his life during a Facebook live video feed. If you haven’t been inundated  with all the media storm around this tragedy. Let me share a bit on what I know. Philando and his girlfriend (who was actually the driver of the car) and her 4-year-old daughter were pulled over for driving with a broken taillight in the state of Minnesota. The officer who approached the passenger side of the car where Philando was sitting, asked to see his license and registration. It’s reported that Philando, informed the officer that he was reaching into his back pocket for his wallet to get his ID. It is also reported that Philando informed the officer that he was a licensed gun holder and he had a firearm on him. After this, the officer shot Philando several times in his right arm, which later killed him.


A day before this shooting, Alton Sterling, another black unarmed man was murdered in cold blood on camera by 2 Caucasian law enforcement officers in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. My reaction to both murders was, “Are you kidding me?” “Where am I living?” Then my mind went to the safety of my male family members. I started to worry about my uncles and my cousins. Then my mind went to, “oh my gosh, what about my brothers, what if they are travelling in the States, would this happen to them as well? I was so enraged!

Not to mention, that a few weeks before these senseless killings. A gunman went into Pulse nightclub, which is a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, and shot and killed 49 innocent party goers and injured several more.

All this violence is damaging to our collective soul body. We need to really stop it! We need to understand that there is no “them” outside of “us” — we are ALL ONE human race.


These acts of violence have me feeling a deep-seated  pain that I’ve never felt before. I feel like I can feel some of the past pain and suffering my ancestors experienced. This could be because I’m tapped into the universal body of energy that flows through me from Reiki.


It has been about a week now since these sad events took place and I still feel unsettled. I feel like I’m walking around with a dark cloud of sadness over my head.


I know that I MUST shift my perspective and allow myself to focus on only love, so I’m working on it. At times It can be really hard to shift our perspective.


I find that reciting positive affirmations and spending time in quiet contemplation really helps. I do know that I don’t want to lose my drive and desire to do something more to help humanity heal and operate from a place of love. I know that it’s all about what we focus on. If we focus on the hate, that’s what we are going to get more of. But, if we focus on the love – that’s what we’ll bring into our lives and into the lives of everyone we come in contact with.


This is why it’s so important for ALL of us to spread LOVE instead of hate so only love can be the dominant ruler of the world.


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Here’s the thing, we all MUST find a new and positive way to operate on this planet together. Collectively, we must come to an understanding that we’re a global community of spirits living to experience beauty and love. So, let us all try to walk in each other’s shoes. This way, we’ll be able to better understand each person’s personal life experiences. When we are able to do this, we are more capable of showing compassion, empathy and love even if the other person looks nothing like us on the outside. Let us face it, if we ALL had our eyesight removed, we can all pretty much agree that we would all look and feel the same. Also, if we removed the skin from our bodies we would be left with only our skeleton, which would show that we all look the same. Providing this could be done without harming anyone.


I know it’s much easier to talk the good talk, but seriously, let’s really try to shift the narrative to do better. Let us dig deep within ourselves to find the answers that will help us to live harmoniously with each other. Race should NEVER be a reason to demonstrate hate towards another human being, rather than love.


Yes, it has been like this for hundreds of years! But it will continue to be this way unless we choose to change the narrative to love instead of hate.  


Here is a list of 8 simple things you can do right now to help you and the world heal after witnessing a tragedy.


1. Connect with loved ones who provide a safe place for you to receive love. There’s no better way to get out of feeling crappy than to surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you.


2. Disconnect from Social Media, this one is huge! When we use Social media to stream all the negative crap, it feeds into all of our fears and pain. This creates more fear and pain in our lives.  


3. When you see any form of injustice taking place in the world, it is our duty to speak up. When we are silent, it’s the same as us condoning the bad behaviour.


4. Get out and spend time in nature. Admire the simple beauty that was given to us to enjoy for FREE. Doing this will rejuvenate your soul.


5. Spend time in quiet meditation and conversation with God/Divine


6. Create a support group to help you and others manage the pain you’ve experienced after a tragic event. Ex. Facebook is such a great place to do this one if you can’t meet in person. I know, this goes against number 2, but I’ll give you a free pass on this one, as long as you stay away from the negative crap. If you can meet in person, Meetup is the best place to create a supportive group with like-minded peeps.


7. When you’re out and about, pick a random person to do something kind for. You can do something like, offer to carry their grocery to their car, hold the door open while they walk through. Another thing you can do is offer a hug to someone that is showing signs of sadness. Obviously, you should do all of these without expecting a “thank you” in return.  


8. Think some positive and loving thought and project them out into the world. I know it’s easy to focus on the negative when we are upset. But I want you to remember that whatever we focus on, WILL increase in our lives. With that knowledge, let us make LOVE the one dominant energy that will overpower all the hate.


The awesome thing about this list is – none of these will cost you a dime. But each will brighten the day of every person that receives the kindness you choose to share with them!


Please share how these recent events have affected you and how you plan to stand up for love in the world. Post in the comment section below where the conversation happens.


I love you all so much! Keep being that wonderful light of love and hope in the world. Until next week.

Live in love and peace,





  1. Luna

    This post is so incredibly important. The injustices that are going on in the world are really getting to me and I’ve often found myself filled with so much sorrow over them I didn’t know what to do! Before Ferguson happened, I had no idea that racism is still so alive. I realized that I’m a part of the problem because I never paid attention to it before. I realized how much I don’t know, how dangerous ignorance is and how I never want to not-know again! Since then, I’ve been paying attention, I’ve been listening to the black community and I’ve been trying to deal with the emotional pain of it all. I’m from Slovenia and our media doesn’t cover these issues AT ALL. Not one mention of these people who have been murdered over the color of their skin. It infuriates me!

    These tips couldn’t have found me at a better time! They are incredibly helpful, I tweeted and pinned them too! Thank you for sharing them with us. <3

    • Kerry-Ann

      Luna, I’m so happy this post helped you today. You are such a beautiful light of love. I can just feel it.

      As they say (I don’t know who “they” are 🙂 ) ignorance is bliss, but knowledge is power. I truly believe this to be true. The institution of government never wants to educate their population about the truth around what is going on within other countries or even within an isolated population. Why? Because there isn’t a monetary benefit within it for their institution. So, this means the responsibility of restoring the global sisterhood and brotherhood fall into the laps of each and every one of us – the global human race. I believe we can absolutely abolish hate and restore love into the hearts of every human being. I know this because hate was born out of fear of the unknown so all we have to do is start educating ourselves so we know what’s going on, just like what you are doing now. 🙂

      The universe chose you Luna, like it did so many of us to be a beckon of love and light. We must go out into the world and illuminate it with love every day – even our bad days. The world desperately needs that right now.

      Thank you so much for stopping by to share your love and beauty with us.

      Love and light goddess!

  2. Amber

    This is a great post. I definitely agree with your tips for overcoming. I have found for myself personally that stepping back a bit from social media has been helpful, and have begun meditating as well. It helps create some grounding within yourself when the rest of the world feels chaotic.

    • Kerry-Ann

      I absolutely love that Amber!
      I believe that meditation is the gateway to all things beautiful and Divine. Social media has a meaningful place in our lives but we MUST learn how to use it wisely. When we submerge ourselves in it as often as we do, we’re allowing our mental space to be overrun by the unpleasant and unhealthy noise that’s a part of social media. So, a double virtual high five to you for stepping away from it to gain more clarity, balance and grounding. Your mind, body and soul are thanking you. 🙂

  3. Mary

    I ironically just posted about this well. That there are positives that we need to focus on. Taking it day by day and being grateful and conscious of the positive things in our lives truly seems to be something more people are doing. There are some good things that are coming out of it, even if it’s hard to find.

    • Kerry-Ann

      Very true Mary! When we focus on the things we are grateful for, we start to make a global positive shift in the world.

      Indeed, more people are coming to terms with the knowledge that all change start within themselves, first. Then it branches out into the global community to make lasting and meaningful change.

  4. May Bee

    Wonderful post. Much needed in this time of need. I too feel very overwhelmed with the current events in the world. Meditating definitely helps.

    • Kerry-Ann

      Thank you, May,

      You are so right! Meditation is the key to helping us deal with any difficult situations. 🙂

  5. Shantel Collins

    I witnessed by uncle die when I was 17 years old and it took nearly 10 years for to be able to sleep without seeing that moment over and over. In hindsight it brought our family closer too!

    • Kerry-Ann

      Shantel I’m so sorry to hear that you had to witness something so devastating and life changing. It’s a blessing your family was able to come closer together during, what I can only imagine as one of the most difficult times in your life. I am sure you are so much stronger for having gone through it all.

      Love and eternal light to you.

  6. Taylor Mobley

    It is really important that we help each other out as much as possible. We all want to be on the same team.
    Taylor | blondeandambitiousblog.com

    • Kerry-Ann

      So True Taylor!! One human Family!

  7. Annalay

    These senseless acts are unbelievable. One of the things I reflected upon is how much and how deeply it effected everyone. Something was different about this time around that collectively our souls were like NO MORE. That level of connectedness and love shows that someone we don’t know will never know -cry for them like family . We are united in our cries

    • Kerry-Ann

      Absolutely Annalay! When we hurt another human, we all hurt for them on a soul level, regardless if we’re aware of it or not. Let’s keep the love alive and strong.

      Thank you so much for sharing your voice with us.


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