Like me, I’m sure you’ve had this happen to you at some point or another. You’ve had someone you cared about just up and leave your life without an explanation. I’ve had best friends and romantic partners do this to me and it hurt like heck, but it made me a stronger person.
This could have happened from a relationship breakdown or a death, either way, the pain was real. The deep emotion of loss is such a deep one, especially when it’s about death. We don’t understand it or why it has happened in the first place to the person we loved so much. Sometimes when we experience a loss, we think it was in some way our fault, but that’s not the case.
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One main thing I want you to understand is, to not take it personal when someone you care about leaves your life. It’s never about you.
“If you are brave enough to say goodbye life will reward you with a new hello.”
–Paulo Coelho
People don’t always do things on purpose to hurt us. Most often they’re too focused on their own self-preservation. If you want, you can take on a new way of thinking about this when this happens in your life. Think, if someone leaves my life, it means I no longer have enough room in my energy field to take them on. Then, see all the beautiful benefits, blessing, and lessons you gained from that relationship. This is a way better outlook than the one of pain and disappointment.
When someone I care about leaves my life without a warning I dig deep into my life survival tool kit. I then pull out three simple and effective reminders to help me deal with the void.
In today’s video, I share 3 simple reminders to help you deal when someone you care about leaves your life.
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With a heart full of love and tons of gratitude!
I really struggle with this – I have a lot of people in my life that have dropped out on me that isn’t either of our faults I think but it doesn’t feel any easier knowing it.
I absolutely understand how you must feel when this happens, try to remember the 3 simple reminders I shared, reason, season, and lifetime. See how they help you shift your thought pattern to a more accepting and loving one towards yourself and towards the person who left your life. Come back here and share with us how it’s working for you 🙂
Tons of love,
XO
I’m definitely one of those people who take it on as being their fault. I somehow feel the loss is preventable, even if I wasn’t happy with the person. I take it on as being something I let happen and that I didn’t try had enough or there was something wrong with me that cause the relationship to end. I’ll have to try these to help switch my view.
Hi Mary,
Don’t beat yourself up. Most people hold this viewpoint. But as soon as they shift to a positive mindset they start to see positive shifts take place in their life.
Try these new tidbits indeed and let me know how they work for you.
Be blessed doll!
XO
Such great reminders. I always try to count my blessings instead of my problems, especially when it gets that bit much. More times I’m trying to im filling my room with unnecessary energy rather than ridding myself of the negative energy.
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Hi Nazrin,
Yes, the best way to deal with any disappointments in your life is to look at all the blessings you have instead of the negative stuff.
Thanks for sharing your voice with us.
XO
What a positive and benefiting way to look at loss. Thanks for speaking some new thoughts today!
Carlen | realmomswingingit.com
You are very welcome Carlen!
I am happy you enjoyed this post. Thank you for stopping by to bless us with your words.
XO
The process of letting go is painful and always try to not give my “whole” me to people. “Not to take it personal when someone you care about leaves your life. It’s never about you” . I will take this with me, thanks.
You are very welcome Neonalton.
I find that once we start to adopt the understanding that everything and everyone is transient, we will be able to invite them in and let them go when the time calls for us to do so.
Thanks for stopping by and gracing us with your comment. XO
Wise words! I’d like to think we live & learn and get better at this with age, but when it happens it’s always so fresh & raw it doesn’t seem to work that way. Thanks for writing this!
~ Alea | frugalnesting.com
Alea, you are so right. It’s all about practicing and practicing to make it perfect it seems. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your comment with us.
XO
What doesn’t kills you definitely makes you stronger.
Absolutely Latoya!! Well said!
XO