Were you ever told that you go from zero to a hundred in a less than a second? Do little annoyances turn up the volume on your blood pressure? Chances are you’re struggling with past traumatic Anger Triggers.
If you want to finally stop getting angry so much and so easy, you MUST keep reading. I have 3 juicy insights on anger triggers and why they start in the first place.
It should be reassuring to know everyone, woman, man, child, even animals experience anger. They also have their own triggers to contend with.
So you see, getting angry isn’t a bad thing, it’s a necessary natural emotion that we all have within us. Anger triggers allow us to remember our past traumatic experiences and situations. They also awaken the flight or fight response within us, to help us react fast to the threat of danger. When this little emotional navigational system is misfiring, it can cause problems. It can prevent us from figuring out if the situation is a threatening one.
A trigger results from our abilities to hold on to our past reactions to experiences. The more we become aware, the more attention we can give to our triggered responses. Once we realize they’re wired or programmed responses we can then choose better responses. When we react without thinking, we often behave in an irrational and over the top way.
What is a Trigger?
A reminder of an unpleasant or traumatic event that happened in our past. This is also known as a flashback, which is generally personal to each individual. Triggers are usually set in motion when we activate one of our 5 senses. If you’re unfamiliar with the 5 senses, here’s a list: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch.
We learn some of or triggers from experiences with our family, which are the most common.
What are your triggers?
Triggers can be so embarrassing and they can create problems in our relationships. Triggers can cause us to become illogical and out of control. They can also have us acting immature, foolish, or even strange at times. This can motivate others to put us in a box and label us as crazy.
I’m sure you’ve heard this statement: “Women are so crazy and emotionally unstable!” Right?
This is such an untruth statement. Women are not crazy! Nor are we emotional unstable. Women react to their triggers because of past generational and familial traumas.
Trust me, there’s always an explanation for the reason for each of our responses.
Now ask yourself these questions:
How did my parents express anger towards each other and towards me?
How was I treated when I expressed anger towards a situation as a child?
What were the messages told to me about anger?
What are the acceptable ways to express my anger towards a situation or person?
Was any situation a controlling situation?
Was I allowed to express my anger and disappointment as a child?
How was the situation dealt with after I expressed my anger?
Was there a discussion about my anger?
Was there a discussion about why I became angry in the first place? Or was the situation swept under a rug, ignored and forgotten about?
Write your answers down on a piece of paper. After you’re finished, look at your answers and analyze them. See if you can gain a deeper understanding around your feelings. See if you can learn how to view and accept your anger. Look and see if you had any as support or a lack thereof?
Here are some examples of things that can trigger your anger
- Hearing a song that played during your unpleasant experience.
- Someone speaks a similar word or the same to what you heard during your painful experience.
- Being around the person that inflicted you with the pain.
- Revisiting the scene that your trauma took place in.
- Picking similar relationships that bring up old unresolved feelings.
It is vital that we work on overcoming any past traumas we’ve experienced in our lives. Once we get a handle on the part of our brain that’s holding on to the pain, we can then see it for what it is. And we can start accepting that the memories stored within it, is no longer our reality but our lessons.
Here are some thought patterns and events that might activate your anger triggers and set you off:
The belief that you have been harmed, disrespected, ridiculed or victimized by someone else.
The belief that the other person set their intentions on deliberately causing you harm.
The belief that past traumas are still happening or could still happen to you.
From the list above, figure out which thought patterns fits your anger triggers. This will allow you to have a better understanding around why you react the way you do.
When you notice yourself reacting out of anger your next step is to ask yourself;
“Why am I responding in such a hostile way?
Where is this anger coming from?
How am I feeling at this moment?
Then write your answers down so that you can have a visual database to refer to as a reminder.
Here’s the thing, anger triggers can send you into depression, mood swings, and anxiety. These symptoms can increase and cause you to have trouble with your sleep. They can also suppress or increase your appetite and cause an influx in your mood.
If you’re feeling any of these symptoms. I recommend that you consult a trusted holistic healthcare practitioner. If you don’t have access to one then a regular healthcare professional will do. Please speak to someone to help you manage through your emotional influxes.
Overall, I want you to understand that you are not crazy, nor are you an emotional wreck. You are absolutely normal. The key here is to recognize that when you get anger, you are reacting based on the triggers from your past trauma.
Your recourse is, to commit yourself to adapting to new ways of deal with your emotions. Once you do this, you can start living a healthier, wealthier and happier life.
Thank you for stopping by to read and share your attention with me. If you found this post helpful in any way, leave a comment in the comment section below.
If you know someone that’s struggling with their anger, please share this with them. This post might be the thing they needed to hear today, to start building a healthy, wealthy and happy life!
Never forget this; you are incredible beings sent here to enhance the world with your light and love! So, go out and shine as bright as a diamond in someone’s world today.
With a heart full of love and tons of gratitude!