Were you ever told that you go from zero to a hundred in a less than a second? Do little annoyances turn up the volume on your blood pressure? Chances are you’re struggling with past traumatic Anger Triggers.
If you want to finally stop getting angry so much and so easy, you MUST keep reading. I have 3 juicy insights on anger triggers and why they start in the first place.
It should be reassuring to know everyone, woman, man, child, even animals experience anger. They also have their own triggers to contend with.
So you see, getting angry isn’t a bad thing, it’s a necessary natural emotion that we all have within us. Anger triggers allow us to remember our past traumatic experiences and situations. They also awaken the flight or fight response within us, to help us react fast to the threat of danger. When this little emotional navigational system is misfiring, it can cause problems. It can prevent us from figuring out if the situation is a threatening one.
A trigger results from our abilities to hold on to our past reactions to experiences. The more we become aware, the more attention we can give to our triggered responses. Once we realize they’re wired or programmed responses we can then choose better responses. When we react without thinking, we often behave in an irrational and over the top way.
What is a Trigger?
A reminder of an unpleasant or traumatic event that happened in our past. This is also known as a flashback, which is generally personal to each individual. Triggers are usually set in motion when we activate one of our 5 senses. If you’re unfamiliar with the 5 senses, here’s a list: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch.
We learn some of or triggers from experiences with our family, which are the most common.
What are your triggers?
Triggers can be so embarrassing and they can create problems in our relationships. Triggers can cause us to become illogical and out of control. They can also have us acting immature, foolish, or even strange at times. This can motivate others to put us in a box and label us as crazy.
I’m sure you’ve heard this statement: “Women are so crazy and emotionally unstable!” Right?
This is such an untruth statement. Women are not crazy! Nor are we emotional unstable. Women react to their triggers because of past generational and familial traumas.
Trust me, there’s always an explanation for the reason for each of our responses.
Now ask yourself these questions:
How did my parents express anger towards each other and towards me?
How was I treated when I expressed anger towards a situation as a child?
What were the messages told to me about anger?
What are the acceptable ways to express my anger towards a situation or person?
Was any situation a controlling situation?
Was I allowed to express my anger and disappointment as a child?
How was the situation dealt with after I expressed my anger?
Was there a discussion about my anger?
Was there a discussion about why I became angry in the first place? Or was the situation swept under a rug, ignored and forgotten about?
Write your answers down on a piece of paper. After you’re finished, look at your answers and analyze them. See if you can gain a deeper understanding around your feelings. See if you can learn how to view and accept your anger. Look and see if you had any as support or a lack thereof?
Here are some examples of things that can trigger your anger
- Hearing a song that played during your unpleasant experience.
- Someone speaks a similar word or the same to what you heard during your painful experience.
- Being around the person that inflicted you with the pain.
- Revisiting the scene that your trauma took place in.
- Picking similar relationships that bring up old unresolved feelings.
It is vital that we work on overcoming any past traumas we’ve experienced in our lives. Once we get a handle on the part of our brain that’s holding on to the pain, we can then see it for what it is. And we can start accepting that the memories stored within it, is no longer our reality but our lessons.
Here are some thought patterns and events that might activate your anger triggers and set you off:
The belief that you have been harmed, disrespected, ridiculed or victimized by someone else.
The belief that the other person set their intentions on deliberately causing you harm.
The belief that past traumas are still happening or could still happen to you.
From the list above, figure out which thought patterns fits your anger triggers. This will allow you to have a better understanding around why you react the way you do.
When you notice yourself reacting out of anger your next step is to ask yourself;
“Why am I responding in such a hostile way?
Where is this anger coming from?
How am I feeling at this moment?
Then write your answers down so that you can have a visual database to refer to as a reminder.
Here’s the thing, anger triggers can send you into depression, mood swings, and anxiety. These symptoms can increase and cause you to have trouble with your sleep. They can also suppress or increase your appetite and cause an influx in your mood.
If you’re feeling any of these symptoms. I recommend that you consult a trusted holistic healthcare practitioner. If you don’t have access to one then a regular healthcare professional will do. Please speak to someone to help you manage through your emotional influxes.
Overall, I want you to understand that you are not crazy, nor are you an emotional wreck. You are absolutely normal. The key here is to recognize that when you get anger, you are reacting based on the triggers from your past trauma.
Your recourse is, to commit yourself to adapting to new ways of deal with your emotions. Once you do this, you can start living a healthier, wealthier and happier life.
Thank you for stopping by to read and share your attention with me. If you found this post helpful in any way, leave a comment in the comment section below.
If you know someone that’s struggling with their anger, please share this with them. This post might be the thing they needed to hear today, to start building a healthy, wealthy and happy life!
Never forget this; you are incredible beings sent here to enhance the world with your light and love! So, go out and shine as bright as a diamond in someone’s world today.
With a heart full of love and tons of gratitude!
This is a great post! I honestly believe you. There is so much that you can learn from the body and this is just another great thing. You can really learn to control your anger.
You are absolutely right Danielle. The body is an amazing instrument and NEVER lies to us. We just have to stop and listen to what it’s trying to tell us. Thank you for your comment.
I actually hate the word…emotional. There is nothing with having emotions…of any kind. As a society we use it in a negative context, and I think it’s awful. This is a wonderful post and an enlightening one.
Thanks so much for your comment Mary.
I agree with you. Being aware of our emotions should be a positive instead of a negative. We should have an open dialog about what we feel and why we are feeling it. It’s about time our society shift into a more mindful and positive way of being.
This is so great. Sometimes we go on autopilot and end up angry for seemingly insignificant reasons. This is an excellent exercise to become mindful and work through those triggers.
Thanks for your comment Tiffany. Hopefully, more people will start adopting the mindfulness practices to enhance their lives so they can become healthier, wealthier and happier. 🙂
I think it is a great part of mindfulness to know our anger triggers. Great post. I love the questions that cause you to examine why you are angry instead of reacting in anger.
Thanks so much doll! Learning as I go along.
Thanks so much for stopping by to share your light with us. XO
Great post as yes we all get angry and sometimes we show it a lot more than other times especially when things are going on in our lives. Keeping a diary as such to see what triggers our anger is a great idea and also trying to see where it stems from is key. I will definitely have a think about these things to try and deal with things better especially when I can be a bit impatient with the kids. 🙂
Hi In The Lyons Den,
Thank you for stopping by to share some insights with us. I love that you plan to be more mindful towards the things that trigger your anger. This is a positive way to manage all your triggers. Keep up the great work. xo
I needed this post Kerry! I was so quick to anger yesterday when a family cut in line at the pharmacy but I stopped myself from reacting. I just reminded myself that I was not in a rush, and perhaps that family had an urgent need. Ommmmmmm?
Hi Angry Redhead, 🙂
Thanks for stopping by! I’m so happy to see you here and to hear that you found value in today’s post. I loved that you chose to handle that upsetting situation with grace and you turned it around to look at it with compassionate eyes – definitely not an Angry redhead here. 😉