How to Stop Feeling Anxious Right Away
Each one of these twelve tips listed below has been tremendously helpful for me. I’ve been using them for years and I plan to continue using them. I find that each one is very effective and easy to use. This is why I keep them in my wellness toolbox so I can reach for them whenever I feel low.
If you’re not suffering from anxiety, these tips can still help you because they are universal to everyone. I’m sure you’ll find something (or maybe a few things!) that speaks to your soul.
Alright then, let’s dive right in…
According to the world health organization (WHO), we have 7.7 billion people living on the planet and 300 to 400 million of them suffer from anxiety and depression.
The majority of the world’s population will live their entire lives in a deep state of sadness and despair not knowing that they are holding the tools within themselves to change how they are feeling in 5 minutes or less.
I’m no stranger to anxiety and depression. I’ve been struggling with both since I was a child. I was nine years old when I first encountered it. I remember feeling a sharp pain in my chest that caused me to fall to my knees while I clutched my chest. I was so terrified because I was struggling to breathe and I thought I was dying! Can you imagine a little child’s mind thinking that she was experiencing death? Not to mention, I was all alone in my bedroom.
I had no idea what was happening to me, all I knew was that the pain in my chest was unbearable and it was a struggle to take small gasps of air. I also didn’t want to cause myself any more pain. Eventually, I was able to breathe normally again without the pain, but the experience left me feeling uneasy. I don’t think I told anyone about what happened to me that day. My home environment was extremely volatile. My mother was extremely physically, verbally and emotionally abusive and her husband, my stepfather, was sexually abusive to me. So it’s fair to say I did not trust them to share what was happening with me with them. As a result, I lived in constant fear and stress. I often woke out of my sleep terrified because of recurring nightmares.
I left my abusive childhood home at age 16, but my anxiety and light bouts of depression followed me because my unpleasant feelings were inside of me and when I left their home, I took them with me. They would only leave me when I decide to face them and work through them, Jon Kabat-Zinn says it best, “Wherever You Go, There You Are”.
Eventually, my anxiety and depression made me feel like I wanted to die so at this point, I knew it was time for me to get help. My doctor decided to put me on a heavy duty medication, which had me feeling groggy and tired all the time. I did not like it one bit. Plus, I didn’t feel like the pills were addressing my real issues – I felt like it was masking the problem. A few months after I decided to take myself off of them for good. (If you’re on medication to help you manage your depression or anxiety, I don’t recommend that you stop cold turkey as I did. Talk to your trusted healthcare professional before you do anything rash).
All of this happened around the same time I received my first Iyanla Vanzant book, One Day My Soul Just Opened Up: 40 Days and 40 Nights Toward Spiritual Strength and Personal Growth. This book was the start of my healing. It empowered me to look deep within my own self for the answers. The concept of “self-help” was new to me, but it lit me on fire and gave me a new lens to see myself in to do the difficult inner work needed to change my life. Change will not come overnight, it took time and effort to rewrite our old belief patterns, but it will come. I now know that this work is a lifelong commitment to my overall wellbeing.
Living your life with anxiety is not easy at all. But know that you can overcome it and transform your life – even in the midst of your pain. These tips have helped me tremendously to feel better quickly. I think they can be super useful for you also and for someone else you may know and love.
- Practice Radical Self-love: Is accepting where you are in your healing journey. Confronting your emotions and allowing all the uneasy feeling to come to the surface. Once they do, face them and do the hard work that is needed for you to heal through each one of them.
But most importantly, give yourself the love you are so desperately seeking outside of yourself. Recite encouraging words to yourself daily, hourly, minute by minute or as much as you need to and that looks like doing everything listing below.
- Control your breath: When it gets too tough to manage your emotions, it’s time to breathe deeply.
A) Take a deep breath in through your nose and hold it for a count of 10.
B) Exhale your breath out through your mouth and hold for a count of 10.
C) Repeat this four more times. Deep breathing helps you with slowing down and finding balance.
- Meditate, Meditate and Meditate: Meditation helps us to get quiet and still so that we can connect with our soul and the God within us. It also trains our awareness to turn inward and look at our thoughts and feelings with nonjudgmental eyes. A study was done on 2000+ adults by Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert they followed these adults around in their day-to-day activities and found that 47% of the time, their minds were not focused on what they were engaged in doing. Meditation helps to manage the chaos we carry in our mind. It has also been found to reduce symptoms of anxiety and panic in individuals.
- Be Mindful and Present: To be Mindful, you must be hyper-aware of what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling, moment-to-moment.
The key is to quickly learn how to recognize when you’re veering out of your present moment. Mindfulness will bring you back into the present moment.
- Watch your thoughts: Stop worrying and stressing about the things outside of your control. Gaur Gopal Das says it the best. He asked the audience, “do you have a problem in life?” And if you answer no, he then asks, “Then why worrying?” He goes on to ask again, “do you have a problem in life?” And if you answer yes, he then asked, “can you do something about it” If you answered yes, he then states, “why worry?”
There is no sense in worrying about something if you cannot do anything about it. Worrying leads to stress and stress will land you in the hospital with life-threatening health concerns. Cancer, autoimmune disease, heart disease, mental illnesses; anxiety and depression are some of them.
- Going back to nature: Nature’s natural healing tools help a lot to remove the toxicity from your body and help to rejuvenate the healing of your cells. You can use fruits and vegetables, energy healing, essential oils, crystals healing, sound healing, yoga, healing herbs, massage, reflexology and acupuncture to name a few to connect you back to the Divine Source.
- Accept where you are and how you’re feeling right now: When you do this, you will be able to get beyond your unpleasant feelings. Be patient, gentle and loving towards yourself. I recommend journaling, particularly gratitude journaling, which will help you to focus on everything that brings you joy. Get yourself a special notebook for this purpose. Then carve out about 5-10 minutes every night to sit and write out what you are grateful for, small or large. When you have finished writing everything down sit and read it all over again. Then, read it over again in the morning before you get out of bed.
- Sleep is your best friend: If you have trouble with falling asleep try taking a warm bath instead of a shower. You can add lavender essential oil and some Epson salt to the water then get in and allow the lavender oil and the Epson salt to relax your muscles to put you in a calming state. Once you’re fully relaxed, get out and head to your bed. Put some lavender oil on your pillowcase, then put some in your diffuser and run it in your room before you get into your bed. You will fall asleep in no time and sleep like a baby.
- Eliminate Sugar, caffeine and Nicotine: Eliminating Sugar and introduce healthy fats into your diet. Avoid alcohol and drugs. Their use can worsen your trauma symptoms and increase feelings of depression, anxiety, and isolation.
- Eat healthy Foods: Eat a small, clean, well-balanced diet. Try to eat like this daily to keep your energy high while reducing any erratic mood swings. Avoid sugary and fried foods at all cost. Try to incorporate plenty of omega-3 fats such as chia seeds, flaxseeds, salmon, walnuts and soybeans to boost your mood.
NOTE: Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate!
I can almost guarantee that you are not drinking enough throughout your day. Our brains are 75-80% water. When we feel depleted, our brains feels foggy and jumbled. Water helps to bring us into a clear and focused state. It helps the brain to feel hydrated and alert.
Invest in a reusable water bottle that I fill up with water and take everywhere with you.
- Move Your Body: Get Active and Moving to engage the right and left hemisphere of the brain. Science shows that Trauma disrupts our body’s natural equilibrium, which puts your brain in hyperarousal and fear-induced state. When in this state, the brain burns adrenaline and releasing endorphins.
Exercise and movement can help to repair any disconnect or breakdown this may cause in your nervous system. Try exercising for 30 minutes or more a day or if it’s easier, try  ten-minute spurts of exercise per day. The best exercise to do is the ones that are rhythmic and engage both your arms and legs. Walking, running, swimming, basketball, or even dancing works best. For me, I love running and brisk walks.
- Natural Healing Tools
1.) Essential Oils used for Stress, Anxiety & Depression
A) Stress: Lavender, Wild Orange, Frankincense, Lime, Grapefruit, Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, Tangerine, Bergamot, Magnolia, Green Mandarin, Yarrow-Pom (Diffuse or massage these oils into your shoulder, back and feet)
B) Anxiety: Copaiba, Lavender, Wild Orange, Chamomile, Neroli, Magnolia, Pink Pepper, Green Mandarin, Turmeric (Diffuse or massage these oils to the back of the neck and/or at the bottom of your feet)
3) Depression: Lavender, Wild Orange, Magnolia, Pink Pepper, Green Mandarin (Add these oils to a warm bath, diffuse them and/or apply them topically to the back of your neck.)
Crystal and Gemstone healing is using the natural universal healing energy found within gemstones and crystals found growing at the earth’s core for millennial.
Crystal/Gemstone used to eliminate and heal Stress, Anxiety and Depression:
Obsidian is an excellent grounding gemstone that is known to help with fear, anger, anxiety, bouts of depression and chronic depression. Meditate with obsidian to help clear unconscious blocks and buried emotions.
- White Howlite (White with grey markings)
Howlite is known to help release stress-related injuries such as ulcers, heart problems, anxiety, tension and anger. It can also help with insomnia caused by an overactive mind.
Hematite is known to provide mental clarity and helps to reduce anxiety and absorb negative energies while calming during times of high stress.
- Lava Stone
Lava Stone is an excellent gemstone to help bring in strength and courage, reduces anger and negativity and increases your energy to be assertive. Lava Stone also help with releasing anxiety and bring in calm and stabiles energies.
- Amethyst, (The Healer’s Stone)
Amethyst is a major healing gemstone. It is one of the most effective healing crystals for people, plants, and animals. It also helps to sooth and melt the winter blues that cause (S.A.D).
- White Howlite (White with grey markings)
- EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique
EFT is a technique used on yourself to tap on your bodies energy centre points, which are also known as meridians or chakra points. Tapping on these energy points can help release pent-up anxiety and stress in the body and mind.
- BONUS: Find support: Talking through your struggles with a professional can helped tremendously. Either a therapist, coach, healer, therapist, counsellor or supportive friends or family members will be able to guide you properly. It’s a way better option than keeping all your emotions bottled up inside of you, which can cause you real harm.
I hope these tips were helpful and I hope you’ll give them a try, maybe not all but at least a few of them, a minimum of three of them. Remember, it takes consistent effort to change old habits, so don’t give up!
You’ll need to commit to showing up for yourself every day.
I deeply believe you can positively change and transform your life with committed and consistent efforts.
Now it’s your turn: Share a tip with us. What tools have you used to help you along your healing journey? Share them in the comments below!
Love you all so much,